How often have you seen yourself, lately, putting a lot of extra energy on things – work, relationships…..with the impression that is more like of a one way street….that nothing comes back in return? Not even words appreciation…
How often are you having to take the lead on things to get things minimally moving … having to pointing out screaming problems that nobody wants to acknowledge …Well, this is ok to work like this for a while but time after time, it brings one to the feeling of overwhelmingness, frustration, agressiveness and ultimately need of reclusion…
The ugly truth…it is time to stop…and think through…why? why are doing this at all…first of all…why are you expecting any return at all from others? What kind of recognition or validation are you looking for? Until which extent your actions and feelings are driven by others….I mean…do you really want to give all that power to others…will they be the ones leading your mood, your day and your happiness? Really? What is the secondary gain you have from being always the one making things move for others and around?
Again..think through…take some time to disconnect..get some perspective on the conditioning you were put under…when will you finally breakthrough from the ropes that were put on you…by others…and sometimes by yourself (in order to meet false beliefs on others expectations)? And what is the price you are paying for it?
What if you make a trial…on trying to put yourself first…driving the attitude and the perspective towards what YOU believe …
If things are not ok…and you keep hearing all these voices in your mind that you are the problem…what kind of action or sick game will be playing with yourself?
I suggest you here a simple and SWEET game for you…a game to “make believe”…
All you have to do here…is make believe…on anything that may be bothering you and keeping you away from being happy NOW!
If you have a problem…just “make believe” that all things were ok…that all is being figured it out…and of course act in congruence to that…act in congruence to the solution your heart points out to…Believe me…things will sort themselves out.. and BELIEVE IN YOU! Can’t be that hard, you used to do this as a child, come on 😉
In doubt on what to do, just go for what it FEELS RIGHT…and then I can promise you, it will be rewarding..because you are going to true and congruent to yourself…and exercising your right of having a conscious choice on life…on what is the ideal solution for all YOUR NEEDS are…and as you can see…they are not depending on others…they are only depending on you…creating and connecting to your own inner world…
And then, you’ll start changing the game 🙂 😉
Thoughts? Can’t wait to hear from you…just share below. 🙂
Thais de Lira 